Does your office feel less like a team and more like a middle school? That sentiment may point to a more serious underlying problem:
Jealousy is a natural human emotion that we’ve all experienced at one point or another. But it should never dominate our relationships with other people–especially the colleagues that we have to work with every day.
If you suspect your coworkers may be jealous of you, here are seven signs to confirm (or deny!) your beliefs:
1. They love it when you make mistakes
You made a typo. It’s a non-issue, yet your coworker just can’t stop bringing it up.
If they’re constantly celebrating your mistakes and reveling in the times you fail, that’s a tell-tale sign they’re jealous of the times you succeed.
What to do: If possible, you should ignore their showboating in the hopes that it’ll eventually stop. If that doesn’t work, try speaking to them, your manager, or HR.
2. They don’t offer to help
You go out of your way to help them, but they don’t help you? That may mean they want you to fail because they hate seeing you succeed.
What to do: They may be jealous, or they may be oblivious to the fact that you do
need help. Ask them directly to give you a hand. If that fails, find someone else.
3. They openly criticize you
Maybe they embarrass you in front of others. Maybe they highlight every little mistake you make (see #1). Maybe they don’t understand the basic rules of etiquette and are overly negative. But it’s also likely that this type of behaviour comes from a place of resentment. Maybe they see your success as a threat, so they want to knock you down a peg.
What to do: Distinguish the good bits of criticism from the petty little digs. The problem may not be that they’re jealous, but rather that they don’t understand how to provide effective feedback. If the issue persists, then it may be time to raise your concerns, either with them or a superior.
4. They talk behind your back
Are your coworkers chatterboxes until you enter the room? They may be talking smack behind your back. We’re not saying you should instantly be suspicious of the slightest whisper of gossip, but trust your gut if you notice a consistent pattern form.
What to do: Try talking to them, but keep it positive. Maybe there’s a reason they seem to be excluding you from their conversations.
5. They give you backhanded compliments
Ugh. The backhanded compliment: The ultimate
form of passive-aggressiveness. Whether a coworker happens to criticize you for your appearance, personality, or personal life, these sorts of comments should not be tolerated.
What to do: If it’s an ongoing problem, confront them. Tell them that their comments make you feel uncomfortable and ask them to stop.
6. They sabotage your work
Is your coworker trying to drag you down by disrupting your productivity? Chances are, they see your success getting in the way of theirs.
What to do: This is a serious concern that needs to be addressed immediately. If a coworker is trying to limit your performance, talk to a manager ASAP.
7. They spread lies about you
Lying usually signifies a deeper, underlying issue, such as a lack of trust or feelings of inadequacy. If you have a coworker that’s trying to tangle you up in a web of lies, it may mean they covet your position within the team, or they view your success with envy.
What to do: Office gossip is one thing. Spreading lies is a whole other can of worms. Talk to your manager, talk to HR, and set the record straight.
Key Takeaways: The Dos and Don’ts with Jealous Coworkers
- Don’t escalate the conflict.
- Do talk to them (when possible) in a courteous and non-confrontational way.
- Don’t let their jealousy affect you too much.
- Do ask for help from your line manager, HR, or another intercessor. Just remember to keep it professional and not to stoop to the offender’s level!
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